Adoption: the emotional and spiritual aspect — Spotify from the CEC Library

This is another Consciousness and Evolution program. Our program discusses spirituality and behavior. I am Moisés Esagüi. Today we are going to talk about adoption. Someone wants to know the following: from the perspective of spirituality, is adoption an act of love?

Everything you do for another person with the intention of helping and benefiting them. Imagine when someone adopts a child: they are giving that child an opportunity to follow a better path, in most cases, than the one they would have followed had they remained with that family. When someone relinquishes a child... There is always some critical situation that leads them down this path. It may be a situation of poverty or war; there are countless situations that lead us to give up our own child, and it may even be a situation of ignorance. The person is very ignorant, does not know how to handle it, and lacks emotional resources; in other words, there is a wide range of variables that can lead us to take this action.

Making our child available to or giving our child to someone is a very serious matter. The question is this: if it is an act of love, everything we do for others is an act of goodwill. An act of love, however, is another matter. I can adopt a child because of my neediness. I will be absolutely sincere in saying this: one may adopt a child because of emotional need; you are very needy. Thus, a child is adopted because one believes that the child will fill a space or because this is what one learned. Your mother said, "We should treat children with affection." So you feel a need to have a child even though you cannot have one physically.

Another thing that may happen is that you are doing very poorly. A couple faces a very serious difficulty in their relationship, and both conclude that adopting a child will save the marriage. That is not an act of love. I am therefore trying to show the listener that there are other facets and various situations to consider. Think about the following: when would it be an act of love? When the person is well resolved and at peace, perhaps with or without a partner, but feels very well and is in a condition that allows them to guide and educate. Emotionally, this person is well resolved; then it can be an act of love.

But we should consider that, in most cases, adoption can generate controversy; and if it generates controversy, that can be good because it allows us to present our point of view, talk, and learn from the other person. That is the great idea behind exposing ourselves and showing our face. I often think that a person adopts because they cannot have a child; that is not love, but neediness, difficulty in the relationship, or the belief that the child will illuminate their life, among other reasons. Therefore, when reflecting on this, consider the other possibilities and even identify with them. I was thinking about adopting a child. For what purpose?

If you are certain that you will adopt a child because you have emotional availability, emotional time, the means to support the child, and the ability to give them an adequate education in this very troubled world, know that accompanying this person's life is not easy. We often intend to do what is right but cannot for various reasons. Yes, we can intend to do things in the best possible way; however, you may encounter an illness, an event at work, loss of employment, and many other difficulties.

A listener asks Fátima whether all the adopted children they know cause problems for their parents and whether this is a rule. She replies that it is not a rule. Perhaps that listener has known only adopted people who displayed this characteristic. Maybe the sample considered includes only cases with problems, which does not reflect reality. I was just receiving an explanation about this from a Buddhist monk here. He said, "Moisés Esagüi, the matter of adoption normally comes as something already defined." But I think differently. With respect for each person, my opinion may also be wrong. This is based on the experiences I have had in lucid astral projections and mental projections.

When you adopt a child, that child brings an energy pattern that may or may not be consistent with what you are or with your family group. You may receive a child of unknown origin; the physical origin is often unknown and may be a highly restrictive condition. And what about the spiritual origin? What is the family group like? Imagine the grandparents and great-grandparents, both paternal and maternal, in order to assess these people's level of consciousness. You will say, but is it not an act of love? I am not talking about that; I am saying this: you will see the child's relatives, who are often very harsh, ignorant people without resources or an understanding of spirituality or life, and who travel through this physical existence as though they were asleep.

A deep sleep, without awakening to an evolutionary process, to growth, effort, understanding, or improvement in the relationship with those around them. Thus, the matter is not so simple. When you adopt someone, you are effectively taking a chance, because the person who comes may or may not approach your consciential pattern. Even if this consciousness is different, it can adapt, review itself, and receive everything you have to offer, creating a path of light.

But there is no certainty; I was a good father, but I do not understand why this child lost their way. It does not work like that: one must know that there are other reasons and other variables to consider. These variables are the spiritual and physical aspects, which are the origin of this group and may be very distant from what you are. Often, being able to take someone in already indicates that you are in a better condition—not always, but it can. Therefore, think about this, although it is not a rule. There are no absolute rules; everything has its exception, and it happens that we often encounter the same situation repeatedly and believe that it will always be the same, which is not true.

I am thinking about adopting a child. Is there guidance in the spiritual world for that child to be placed with a particular family? The person wants to know whether, when someone adopts, the people above say, "Look, this family will receive this child." There may, however, be intuition or guidance for you to adopt a specific child; this can indeed happen. Nevertheless, do not forget that we have free will and that you may suddenly choose a child on your own; otherwise, we would be taking away people's right to seek new paths and make their own choices.

Thus, yes, it can happen: you have an intuition and may suddenly be guided toward a certain place, but I think that the possibility of choosing on your own and being right or wrong is your responsibility. Otherwise, we transfer responsibility for our actions to the spiritual world. You go there, make a promise, and think that the little saint who is there, waiting for you all the time and at your disposal, will indicate the best path. We respect all beliefs, but I think that we should not give the saints, gurus, and masters so much work if we can spare them by taking our own paths and assuming responsibility for our attitudes.

A listener asks what happens to the spirits of the family of origin when a child goes to another family unit. Every family consists of people who have a physical body and spiritual consciousnesses who once had a physical body, on both sides. When someone cannot cope—for example, if a person cannot care for the child and decides to relinquish the child—what happens? The nearby spirits may be sensitized and moved and may consider this the only solution; they may also become angry. It is not predictable; one cannot infer what another is thinking. This will occur in the physical world.

Imagine that, in the physical world, you sometimes do something and leave the entire family angry with you, and everyone may remain by your side. The spiritual world operates in the same way, mainly because these people once possessed a physical body, and the thoughts and feelings learned through the process of various reincarnations make them similar. If it is a more evolved spirit, it is certainly outside the earthly sphere and has nothing to do with this. Thus, we are speaking about spirits that are closer, family spirits who remain attached to Earth and family and who still relate with the physical world in some way.

Thus, it may be something positive or negative; our listener should not expect that there is something written that says, "Look, what happens to the family spirits? They will become very upset and hurt because the child..." No, it is not like that. They may suddenly even help in this process of relinquishment because they know that this child, this spirit, will have a better path with another family than they could have had in the family of origin. Therefore, there is no rule for this, just as there is no rule for how a human being expresses themselves and decides their own life.