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Today we are going to talk about reincarnation and family bonds, a topic that touches everyone because we all come from a family or group. Some families are evolutionary groups, where members help one another grow together. On the other hand, we have the concept of group karma, which involves making amends and reconciliation among members. This can include relatives and close friends with whom we exchange roles throughout reincarnations until we reach complete acceptance and reconciliation. Most of the questions received today are related to group karma, which reflects the reality of many of us. According to the statistics observed, almost no one belongs to an evolutionary group because most people are still dealing with emotional issues and making amends within group karma.

One point that frequently confuses people is understanding what constitutes a healthy group as opposed to a dysfunctional group. We often believe the group we belong to is evolutionary, but that is not always the case. We experience highs and lows in relationships: siblings fight and parents argue with aunts and uncles, but they later reconcile. This leads us to believe that everything is fine, but in fact, we practice inconsistencies. It is important to reflect on the functionality of our family, observing from childhood how our parents and relatives related to one another.

We should analyze not only the immediate family unit, but the entire family, including aunts and uncles, grandparents, and great-grandparents. Identifying what is functional and dysfunctional helps us better understand our own characteristics. Being researchers of ourselves is fundamental to following a path of self-discovery. By examining the characteristics of our parents and relatives, we can discover aspects of ourselves that reflect the group in which we are embedded.

The belief that family is sacred can prevent us from seeing its difficulties. We are often afraid to see other people's flaws and, above all, our own difficulties in accepting them. We pretend that nothing happened, but when we feel irritated or angry, it is a sign that something is wrong. Accepting the people around us is an important step toward personal growth.

Many people report difficulties in family relationships. One question raised concerned feeling out of place in one's family and whether this indicates family bonds or merely an incarnated physical challenge. Another question asks whether families can be formed by people with no affinity who serve only as a channel for incarnation. There is generally some kind of bond or affinity, because otherwise we would not be in that group. Even when we feel disconnected, there is a shared history that may not be positive but is still significant.

You may have done something to someone that generated guilt, creating a bond that makes you want to approach that person to resolve it in a future life. You may also have had a strong attachment to someone and wish to continue with that person. Various situations lead us to establish bonds, and not all of them are happy or positive. Sometimes we feel that something is not right, and this makes us inconsistent, questioning what we are doing here. It is important to understand that, whether within the family or in any other relationship on Earth, we should use these bonds as pillars for our growth.

Ask yourself: what can this relationship teach me? Even in difficult situations, such as with a father or sibling who mistreats us, there are lessons to be learned. Understanding our history and what brought us here may require time and personal development, perhaps through visualization using clairvoyance or astral projection. However, the principal point is: I am here now, so what can I do to improve my relationship with the people around me?

Most families are at the same emotional level, encompassing about 90% of people. When it is said that each person is in the family where they should be, many are shocked because they do not see themselves at the same level as their relatives. However, the level being mentioned is evolutionary. Feelings such as anger and jealousy indicate that we still have a great deal to learn about acceptance and relationships. The family is a space in which we work on our differences until we reach acceptance. When we accept, it does not matter what the other person does; we understand that it is their path. We are not in our families by chance. Evolved people are born into different families, but most of us are where we need to be. The discomfort we feel toward others reveals a great deal about ourselves.

We need to work on acceptance to raise our level and perhaps enter an evolutionary group in a future incarnation. It is important to understand that the family is not wrong while we are right. The people who accompany us are probably committed to their own evolution. Being here is a step toward leaving conflict-ridden groups and looking at ourselves. Ask yourself: why does this bother me so much? The idea that someone killed us in a past life and that we are now siblings to resolve it is one way of understanding that we need to accept this person. When we reach acceptance, we are no longer bound to these situations.

The term "forgiveness" was not exactly the one used because forgiving implies judgment. What was truly expressed was internal resolution and wishing that consciousness well. Acceptance means retaining no trace of resentment or negativity, even if the experience was painful. This is not simple. When someone speaks badly about you, for example, it is common to hold resentment even if everything appears fine on the surface. We need to rid ourselves of these minor hurts that maintain negative bonds.

Knowledge is liberating because it helps us understand our growth process. Without this understanding, we may become attached to unnecessary situations, such as abusive relationships. Without knowledge, we remain trapped in codependent relationships, even when they are harmful. When we realize that we can be free and do not need to remain in dysfunctional situations, we open the way to a healthier life. Remaining in destructive relationships out of convenience or fear of change can perpetuate negative cycles in future lives.

Choices made in one life can have significant effects in the future. When we speak about leaving a family situation, it is not out of selfishness, but to improve our condition and thus positively influence our group karma. Being well enables us to help others more effectively. There are accounts of people who, after improving their lives, inspired positive changes in their families. Personal improvements, large or small, help those with whom we have bonds, such as relatives and friends.

The idea of leaving a situation is not to abandon others, but to improve oneself in order to help more effectively. Someone who is unwell cannot help and may even hinder others. Regarding difficulties in family relationships, many people have already tried to reconcile but encounter resistance. When the other person does not want to reconcile, the focus should be resolving oneself internally. In group karma relationships, it is important to understand that we cannot change the other person, only ourselves. If the other person is closed off, what we can do is resolve ourselves in relation to them, accepting and understanding their suffering. Someone who is well does not feel anger or hatred. Understanding that the other person is suffering and does not need our anger, but our understanding, is essential.

When we can look at this person without resentment, we are resolved. One example illustrates this: the person who killed Gandhi needs to resolve their hatred, but Gandhi, being fully resolved, will not need to be reborn into a karmic situation with that person. Gandhi is not trapped in this dynamic because he has already overcome the issue.

As we reflect on these questions, it is important to remember that even if the other person is closed off, your work continues. What you feel and are determines your path. When we deal with complicated people in the family, such as someone aggressive, the emotional charge is great. Telling someone to act calmly is easy, but in practice, accepting someone who yells and attacks is challenging. I have seen families in difficult contexts, and the important thing is to learn to assert yourself, establishing boundaries between what belongs to the other person and what belongs to you.

This should be done respectfully, without yelling, but assertively. As you express and assert yourself, the other person perceives that you are doing nothing against them. We should take steps according to each situation. Sometimes it takes many years for a person to perceive the value of the way they were treated. It is important not to have the illusion that the other person will understand what we say merely because we speak gently. The other person is immersed in learning from several lives, and we need to chart the best paths within this relationship.

Accepting someone does not mean spending a great deal of time with them. It is possible to accept, but reducing contact with someone highly aggressive may be necessary. This person may be surrounded by similar spiritual consciousnesses, which affects us. Each person should sense the best path. One great challenge is transmuting a group karma relationship into an evolutionary group. When living together, small things can create friction. The question is: what moves are we making to transform a group for making amends into an evolutionary group? One way is to join groups that think alike, forming new units of people who want to grow and evolve. This can create strong bonds for future incarnations.

A listener mentioned that he accepts and considers himself free of problems, but sometimes it seems that situations arise to test him. He uses this as a learning experience, trying to improve exchanges and understanding that we are at different moments. This led him to embrace the CEC wholeheartedly rather than merely following it from the outside; and here at the CEC we are creating a group of like-minded people. Regarding leaving the current family in the next reincarnation, it is possible, but it requires significant changes. The connection in the next life among you, your parents, husband, and children depends on the changes made now. The question of which family the children will tend to join in the next life is complex because it involves strong bonds with both parents.

The initial question addresses family composition and the relationship between blood relatives and those who join the family. The person mentions that she considers the children part of the group but views the husband as someone who joined it. This raises questions about the children's spiritual origin, as they may belong to the father's or mother's family group, depending on their characteristics. The discussion delves deeper into the dynamics of family groups, which are not fixed. When two people unite, their distinct family groups may or may not integrate well, depending on affinities and cultural, habitual, and background differences. The union may be stable and positive when there is compatibility, but significant differences may hinder this integration.

The energy and attunement between the groups determine whether they can become one, and this connection can influence future incarnations. There is no rigidity in these relationships; there are energetic and emotional exchanges that can alter roles within the group. The husband, for example, may not belong to the same group karma, but he participates in these exchanges of roles.

By observing the children, it is possible to identify which group karma they came from, especially if the parents do not belong to the same group. This perception can be challenging because it involves accepting characteristics that may not be welcome. Acceptance and growth are fundamental, and conflicts may arise, especially in separations where children from different group karmas remain together.

Each incarnated group karma is influenced by a disincarnated group, which further complicates family dynamics. Understanding this influence can help improve family relationships. The question of why family members affect the emotions so strongly is addressed: close contact within the family group exposes differences and difficulties that do not appear in more distant relationships, such as friendships. Assertive, calm communication is rare in families, but it is essential to dealing with these difficulties. Knowledge and awareness are necessary to identify dysfunctional behaviors and seek changes that bring greater health to relationships.

Remembering that we are natural repeaters is essential. When someone asks why families affect our emotions so strongly, we realize that we often repeat family beliefs. For example, a person may feel unable to become financially independent because of beliefs inherited from their parents. Beliefs do in fact become established unconsciously. Phrases such as "money does not tolerate disrespect" are internalized, and our parents' fears are transferred to us.

We grow into adults filled with fear and lacking the courage to act because we repeat family patterns. To break this cycle, we need to become aware of what was passed down to us and identify what we repeat. We should analyze which of our parents' patterns no longer make sense and consider spiritual influence. Often, a fear of spending may be connected to a disincarnated family member who experienced deprivation and influences us spiritually.

When we become aware and work to change, our spiritual helpers also change because they may become out of step with our new state. The path is always the effort of growth. Detecting what we repeat and the spiritual influences is crucial to carrying out energy work, cleansing the environment, and adjusting it to what we truly are.

The family is the starting point of our lives, but it is important to chart a healthy path within this group. Growing and learning from family reference points is essential, even when they are not always positive. Independence is fundamental to our spiritual and consciential evolution. Maintaining a healthy bond with the family is possible, but living with them until the end of one's life may be questionable. We should reflect on what leads us to this thought. There are accounts of suffering, such as sexual abuse, that raise the question: is suffering necessary for growth? This belief that suffering is necessary for growth is common, but it needs to be demystified. Growth comes from change, not from suffering itself.

In fact, suffering is only suffering. Depending on its type, it may pull us down or propel us to make changes. Financial difficulties, for example, may motivate us to leave that condition and improve our lives. However, situations such as aggression or family abuse should not be seen as something we need to endure. Believing that we must go through this keeps us in the same condition, possibly even in future lives. We do not need to suffer; we should seek happiness, and suffering is not necessary to resolve issues.

We do not regard karma as a debt to be paid. Although the term is widely used, we prefer to see karma as the emotional charges and difficulties we generate that influence our lives. If someone committed an unfortunate act, such as killing, they will live with the weight of that negative energy. This does not mean that the person will suffer in exactly the same way, but that the negative emotional context we create naturally brings suffering. 80% of the population is emotional and lives with some degree of suffering. We often do not perceive that we live in suffering, such as when we feel jealousy or envy, because we are far from understanding what stability is.

The measure of our liberation is the reduction of our suffering. This does not mean that an evolved person lives without problems, but that they possess a level of acceptance that causes less suffering. Acceptance is not passivity; it is recognizing what the other person is while taking steps not to suffer. If someone is aggressive, we should set boundaries and move away if necessary. Acceptance means allowing the information in life to flow without troubling us.

Regarding children's suffering, it is important to remember that they have an incarnational history and may carry problems, including physical ones, from past lives. In addition, parental ignorance can increase childhood suffering. Children arrive with their own history and still face a lack of understanding from the adults around them. It is fundamental for parents to know how to set boundaries and not confuse giving a child everything they want with care, because this can create spoiled individuals who are unable to deal with frustration.

When we marry, we may take on the karma of the new family, but this is not a fixed rule. Karma does not lie with the other person, but with ourselves. If someone is banished from a family after their spouse dies, they should assess how they feel about it. Emotional involvement is what connects us to karma, and the more internally resolved we are, the less emotionally involved we become with groups. In family relationships, it is important to seek acceptance and reconciliation and avoid codependence. We often confuse attachment with love, but true freedom comes from emotional independence. We create bonds of dependence to feel important, but this is not healthy. Accepting differences is essential to liberation.