Human Relationships (Consciousness and Evolution Program) — YouTube from the CEC Library

The human relationship is the basis of everything. There are various types of relationship: affective, sexual, religious, social, family, and professional. It is important to distinguish each one in order to act appropriately, but we can behave in a natural way in all situations, always guided by common sense. Common sense is fundamental: it is the space where we can express our opinions without hurting or being hurt. I created the work Spiritual Blunders.

Relationships occur at different levels. It is easier to relate when there is something in common, such as hobbies or interests. Fishermen, for example, have endless conversations about fishing. Another universal point of contact is food, which is related to the spleen chakra, where those energies circulate. Relationships can flow easily or be critical. Many times, we want to impose our banners in relationships, as if that defined our personality. However, being aggressive or passive are dysfunctions. We need to engage in dialogue, not impose our point of view. That leads nowhere.

As a psychoanalyst, I observe self-confirmation behaviors, in which people seek external validation for their choices. On acquiring something, for example, they try to convince others that it is wonderful, reinforcing their ego. This search for external acceptance is common, but we need to see beyond ourselves and take others into account. Emotional difficulties indicate relationship problems. A simple test is the ability to speak in public. If you are shy, that is something to be resolved. Shyness prevents open and sincere relationships. We need to understand its causes and overcome them. Moreover, when we feel anger or dislike toward someone, it is a sign that something needs to be worked on internally.

Everything must be guided by common sense. Otherwise, we can feel anger toward someone for no reason. Sometimes the person is trying to help, and even so we feel anger. It is crucial to observe how we relate to ourselves and to others, because we evolve through relationships. A relationship is not just about convincing others. Some people speak well and convince everyone, but the true relationship is an exchange between two people, a traffic of ideas and constructions. It is not unilateral. If it were, great dictators would be examples of good relationships. However, a relationship is a bilateral exchange. Life is a constant questioning, and it is important to have that awareness.

When we speak of relationship, we can evaluate how we act at different levels. That includes how we relate to food. The world is made of relationships with everything around us: people, animals, plants. Do we eat properly and calmly, without going beyond limits? Eating too much can lead us into the sin of gluttony. We need to be attentive in order to feed ourselves properly.

We also relate to objects, such as clothes and shoes, and to the knowledge we acquire. Do we have a methodology or discipline for learning? Do we add knowledge daily? True knowledge is the kind that adds something new, not just repetitions. Another example is how we relate to animals. We need to treat them with respect and affection, without humanizing them, allowing them to live their lives.

The same type of relationship occurs through the media. When you listen and someone speaks, a relationship begins. It becomes more active when you ask questions, completing the cycle of mutual growth. Relationships make up everything in our life. We live on a planet with about 7 billion and 300 million inhabitants, along with countless insects, animals, trees, and fish. Everyone shares the Earth, and we need to learn to coexist better with all of that. After physical death, we become part of the Earth, a universal cycle of life.

The chakras, especially the base chakra, are related to procreation, birth, and physical life. Topics such as masturbation, betrayal, and the physical-sexual and spiritual relationship are extremely important spaces for reflection. We can use these energies for healing and avoid bad spiritual companions. It is essential to add knowledge daily in order to improve our life course.

Our life is grounded in the relationships we have with everything around us. We need to learn this in order to make the most of our experience here. Otherwise, we cannot make the most of it, for lack of knowledge. No one is to blame for that, because we were not taught. Parents rarely explain to their children how to live a happier life, addressing spirituality and the path of life in a complete way. That is not common. We learn by living with our parents, absorbing what they learned. If they did not learn correctly, it is not their fault. 100 years ago, we had nothing of what we have now. Everything was done by hand. Today, we can communicate with people on the other side of the world, seeing them. That represents a great advance.

We must be aware that our relationship with life must accompany every moment. In this way, we free ourselves from many things we create that lead us nowhere. To rid ourselves of that, we need common sense and balance. Technology can support our well-being, but we also need nature and life in balance in order to walk the best inner path. It is important to use technology for some things and nature for others. Nature represents our balance, health, happiness, proper nutrition, and our relationship with plants, animals, earth, and air. That is the true relationship we need to reach.