Relationships between Couples - an emotional and spiritual view (Consciousness and Evolution Program) — YouTube from the CEC Library

Let us begin with the emotional aspect. Imagine two people meeting: a man and a woman. The first glance is a complete success, a strong emotion. When there is affective neediness or a need to have someone, this drive of desire is extremely powerful, regardless of age. Exchanges of glances and acts of seduction occur naturally when we meet someone attractive. These emotional exchanges are clear, but we often do not perceive them.

When a young person, whether a man or a woman, falls in love, they become practically blinded by the force of passion, which is essentially sexual. If we ask someone in love, they will say that they know what they are doing, but an outside observer perceives an emotional lump that is difficult to classify. Initial passion is driven by neediness, confusing love with passion and sex with life as a couple, without clarity.

One must travel a path with someone to discover whether the relationship is worthwhile or should end. Passion involves physical contact, but the perception of caring, true affection, and love is far removed from that. Despite accounts and facts that show this reality, we remain blind. This is not normal; it is common. We lack discernment and clarity because we have not learned to deal with relationships in a calm and conscious way.

The media is not concerned with our well-being, but with what it can extract from us. On social networks, a seductive image always defeats a more serious one. This reflects how easily our emotional side is manipulated. When we find someone beautiful, we say they are interesting without knowing them. This means that we like their appearance without considering who the person really is or what they can offer in terms of knowledge. The media exploits these high-powered emotional drives, such as the euphoria at a soccer game, and this is reflected in affective relationships.

I believe that we need a plan for life. We can do whatever we want, but with discernment. If the objective is merely to date casually, that is fine. But if we seek continuity, time and discernment are necessary. Now let us address the spiritual aspect. A relationship has a cycle: the chakra cycle. We are talking about the base chakra. All chakras have a path of interpretation. Initially, there is the normal path, but there is also another that can be compared to an illuminated fan in which two rotations can be perceived. One rotation is natural and the other appears to be in the opposite direction, but both influence the perception of the other person and time. In a purely sexual relationship, passion lasts at most a year, perhaps a little longer, with effort. I am talking about continuous life together.

If you live with someone sporadically, you may say that you have known the person for 20 years, but how many times have you actually lived with them? In life together, the chakra cycle indicates wear, because the perception of the other person becomes clearer, especially if the consciousness is anchored in the base chakra. With this knowledge, it is possible to analyze many relationships.

Two or three years ago, I read that one study indicated that a relationship lasts no more than four years before separation. In the base chakra, it lasts one year. In the spleen chakra, about two and a half years. In the navel chakra, up to four years. In the upper heart chakra, the relationship becomes continuous, because it seeks not only physical pleasure but also caring, affection, and building together, making relational life meaningful.

Relationships in which a bond is created are different from superficial relationships, such as those in which someone has a harem of about 20 women. It is not necessary to create a bond, but for growth and evolution it is important to build something that has continuity. Relationships should be built above the base chakra to avoid an emotionally empty and depressive life in the end. Life should be enjoyed to the fullest, with discernment and organization, in order to truly enjoy what is around us. Monet, for example, spent four or five hours by the edge of his gardens, observing nature, capturing feelings that he conveyed in his Impressionist paintings. Feeling is something that touches us deeply and continuously.

An affective relationship is a crucial aspect of life that we often do not conduct properly because of a lack of understanding. It is essential to learn to deal with it in order to have someone in our life or to live in a healthier and happier way alongside someone. In this way, we can look back and feel that we made good use of life, which is not a simple task. We frequently learn distorted concepts that do not work when we need a reference point. These reference points are often archaic, without a foundation in knowledge or discernment, and based on beliefs and conditioning, which prevents life from functioning properly.

Imagine, for example, a couple in which the wife is ill and the husband attends a Spiritist center. The wife does not accept spirituality, but the husband believes that energy passes can improve her condition. He came to me to find out how to convince her, because he was certain that she would improve. The idea was that, by improving a person's energy through energy passes, they would feel better. Energetic vitalization really can improve someone's condition unless the person denies it so strongly that nothing works. If there is no belief, there is no effect. Eventually, he managed to convince his wife, and she improved significantly. This demonstrates that when we are aligned around a common purpose, life as a couple flows much better.

It is important to have time to build continuity and mutual understanding, which leads to happiness.