The Various Fears (Human Factors) — YouTube from the CEC Library

We are talking about fear. We have various fears: fear of relationships, fear of authority figures, among others. These fears arise at the most inconvenient moments, such as when speaking in public. Some people have difficulty talking to the opposite sex. To assess our fears, we need to be under normal conditions, with no altered state of consciousness and not at an advantage, because when we are at an advantage we tend to have more courage and more strength. Under normal conditions, we can evaluate ourselves. Some fears inevitably appear; they are fears we do not want to see, and over time we end up burying them. However, they turn into other things. It is crucial to take care of ourselves emotionally and physically. Organize your life to do what you want, as long as it is something good and natural. Some fears are a very large expansion of inner content.

If you have accumulated unhappiness or suffering, this can affect your life. For example, if your parents live in conflict, this affects the children. If you do not have a positive parental figure, you will have difficulties with similar figures in adult life. If your mother is passive and your father aggressive, you may repeat these patterns in your relationships. These relationships often bring suffering instead of calm and happiness. Conversations about problems, rather than happy moments, are common. We need to make the most of our path, not remain trapped within ourselves. If we do not move beyond ourselves, our problems accumulate. In relationships, this needs to be overcome, whether through the strength of the ego or with professional help.

Understanding what makes us suffer is essential. If we do not understand ourselves, we suffer and face conflicts and difficulties. Inner emotional charges consume us. It is important for our relationships to be clear and free of emotional charges so that they flow smoothly and remain calm, without arguments or confrontations. We should work to leave the space of fear and enter the space of freedom and happiness. Threatening events can remain within us, but emotional difficulties radiate into other areas. Our fear can generate anger and inner incompetence. If we see someone who is more focused, we may feel angry and criticize them, believing we are right.

When we talk about others, it is good to reconsider what we are saying. Praise and positive expression are different from projecting our shortcomings onto others. Fears contain hurt, revenge, and frustration, which are like delayed-action mines that explode when we least expect it. Relationships are fundamental, beginning with ourselves and extending to others. We tend to justify our difficulties, but this needs to end. When we cannot accomplish something, we blame others or invent excuses. It is important to reflect on this.

The goal here is to review ourselves so we can be happier. We cannot reach the end of life with unresolved suffering. Spending energy to resolve issues is necessary. Pretending not to see problems leads us to superficiality, which is a very common trait nowadays: we think it is better to be superficial, to say it was nothing and let it go, and so we do not see. This also applies to the relationship between parents and children. Parents are often the last to learn about their children's problems because they deny reality. It is crucial to be attentive to our lives.

If you believe that calm means not caring about anything, that is fine. However, I am talking about the emotional aspect because it is the basis of our existence and our relationships. Our life continues after the death of the physical body, and what we are emotionally reveals itself intensely when we no longer have the body as a barrier. We often do not realize this until we encounter spiritual reality.

Everything that is said can be questioned, and I believe we can learn a great deal together by seeking to understand the mechanisms of fear. Fear is not healthy; it affects us at inconvenient moments. Think about crossing an unfamiliar dark street or having your car break down at night in a strange place. In these situations, emotional fear follows us, and the relationships we have with ourselves and others are fundamental to living better.

Relationships should be sources of happiness and calm, but learning to relate is not easy. A person may harbor anger over something we consider small but that is significant to them. Fear arises from other problems we face, and relationships need to be handled carefully. We should always consider the consequences of our actions in order to live more calmly. Fear needs to be understood. Fear of relating to oneself and others exists and should be detected. When you talk with someone, there are barriers that need to be understood. It is important to notice whether you can speak in public without difficulty or whether you need strategies to feel safe.

Reflecting on how you communicate with strangers or authority figures is essential. All of this is part of relationships and will continue to influence our lives. We will continue exploring the subject of fear to dismantle what frightens us.